Thursday, May 15, 2008

surviving the 4th trimester

time flies so fast...baby raclif is now 3 months old! from an odd-looking unresponsive newborn who did nothing but sleep, cry, eat and soil his diapers, our baby has transformed into an increasingly active and alert full-fledged cuddly infant who now takes interest in his toys and his hands and entertains us with his dimpled smile, adorable live gurgles, squeals and coos.

for first-time parents like us, the fourth trimester was a tough time...a baptism of fire. it kinda made the whole 9 months of pregnancy and the few hours of labor and delivery seem like a walk in the park. it is the getting-to-know-your-baby-and-adjusting-to-your-new-life stage, a roller coaster of emotions, physically draining, definitely not the scenario i fantasized about when i was still pregnant.

as soon as we brought the baby home, we were faced with a long "to-do" list that I had no time to indulge in rest and recover from c-section. looking back, it was a blur of countless diaper change, expressing milk at least 4 times a day, feedings every 2 hours, washing and folding tiny socks, bibs, caps, blankets and clothes, rocking baby to sleep while singing him lullabies, carrying him around the house ALL THE TIME when he's awake, going to the doctor for his routine well-baby checkups, documenting his 'firsts', taking him for a stroll at the mall or at the park, carrying a big diaper bag and photographing his every move so we can have his photos printed and sent to lolo and lola.

As if those are not enough, baby raclif is very obliging. He always gives us something to worry about: diaper rash, cradle cap, baby acne, eyes not working in unison, blocked tear ducts, stuffy nose...and these are all common and normal! Add to these the usual household chores and i always end up with busy days and sleepless nights, painful joints (baby gets heavier each day), skipped meals and sometimes forgetting to wash my face or comb my hair or the few times i got lucky i managed to take a quick less-than-5-minutes shower. hahaha! I mentioned this to my friends who are also mommies and all they could say to me was a resounding "welcome to the club!"

at 3 months, baby raclif is very healthy and sociable. he likes being around people and only cries when he needs something. finally we have successfully decoded his cries - i can now tell exactly what he needs. and he's an easy baby: you give him what he needs and he'll stop crying.

we survived the 4th trimester but i know that the worst is yet to come (inaykupo!) Ok...so let me now congratulate myself for a moment and breath some fresh air before i plunge into more challenging days ahead.

Saturday, May 10, 2008

happy Mom's day!!!

hello...hello, anybody home? can you hear me now?? yes, i am sooo back! and it's not just any ordinary day but mother's day. finally, i now have a reason to celebrate! the other day i was on the phone with my former co-worker, inay flor, and i greeted her both a belated happy birthday (she turned 50something last may 5) and advance happy mother's day. she greeted me back and we both reminisced those past mother's day days when i would ask myself "when will i be a mom?"

now that the question has already been answered, i can only savor the feeling of being at the receiving end of this day's greetings. and yeah, while i agree to what others say that it's a hallmark conspiracy and that everyday should be mother's day (the same way that everyday should be valentines/christmas/thanksgiving/ whatever day...), i believe it doesn't hurt to pick one special day to really celebrate, does it? in fact, nobody requires you to buy a hallmark card...where's your sense of imagination?

ahhhh motherhood...it's a tough thing to do. it's a commitment, a sacrifice, a career. it's life-changing, as the cliche goes, and it really is. i'm still a neophyte and i'm learning and sometimes complaining but at the end of the day when i'm all tired, exhausted and totally drained of energy, i look at my baby's face while he sleeps contentedly and i feel a sense of pride and accomplishment. and when he smiles and laughs? oh no, his wish is my command! he's got me totally hooked a thousand percent.

but before i continue talking about my early motherhood (mis)adventures, let me take this day to greet my fellow first-time moms rackel and leslie who somehow helped me get through PPD by just talking to them on the phone or YM and sharing with me their own experiences. thank you girls...give my kisses to mickey and nico! :-*

and finally, happy mom's day to the all-time supermoms i personally know - auntie aning, ate maria, ate amy, inay flor, mama pacing and of course, my mom...i miss you all so much!

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